Single but not so single!!

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I was in school I was single… watching all the other girls of my age hanging out in café, in class, after school with their counter parts ‘boys’(at that time I used to think I must first concentrate on studies these girls are just wasting their time… I would soon get someone in college). Then came the much awaited college life and I was single again for whole three years…watching all the other girls of my age hanging out in the café, after college with their counterparts ‘boys’ and I was for all the boys their best friend irony was that I actually was (at that time my excuse was ‘so what! It’s just that I don’t know how to approach…I am just too reserved. I will surely get someone very soon). Then the college life ended. With tears in the eyes, endless promises to stay in touch, zeal to excel in whatever field to pursue and also with a new hope to find someone who will love ‘me’ for a change…I moved ahead. And at that time I was pretty much sure to be frank that the new world of office, work, has much more in store for me and my love life, ‘Over Confidence’ you may say it.

However, very soon I realised that my ‘over confidence’ was my way of consoling myself that I will get someone soon…and its normal human nature. I was working and I was single again…again watching all my co-girl-workers talking about their counter parts and showing me that love is so beautiful and if you don’t have it in your life, you are definitely loosing on a very important aspect of life. They all directly or indirectly made me realised that if I am ‘Single’ it’s because I am lacking something and no other reason. It was as if mandatory for all the girls in relationships to ask me or all single girls as to why we are not committed and the annoying part was their way of putting it…it goes like this (hey…are you committed? no??...but why…oh I can’t believe it but you are so cute??)

This time my way of handling all this was different mainly because now I didn’t had any excuses for me, no more consolation words or motivating lines. I was disheartened and I was very disheartened. I was not disheartened because I was desperate to find a guy for me but because of many other reasons…desperation was obviously one small part of it. So I sought of accepted it that there is something wrong in me or probably in all the men. Sometimes when very sad I ask god…we all know god made us all in pairs and he is the one who make one girl meet her soulmate. So I ask him why he is hiding my soulmate whereas he is giving all the other girls theirs and I used to receive an answer ‘Wait be patient’…so I am obediently waiting and being patient till now.

I am a very romantic gal (very bollywood)…hmmm…let me explain. I believe in ‘Raj, Rahul’, I believe in Kuch kuch hota hai, kal ho na ho, kabhi alvida na kehna, Jab We Met and many such love stories, I cry each time after watching ‘Veer Zaara’ because Veer and Zara’s love for me was too much to make me realize how beautiful love is and what am I loosing. I love ‘tumse hi’ song from Jab we met…because it’s an utterly romantic number and I would want a guy to propose me with this song in background or if he can sing…nothing’s better than that…ha-ha!! Whenever I go to a book shop I pick up love story’s…all types. I know I have no one in my life…and no chance of even getting anyone in coming future not because I am not good-looking or intelligent or any other reason but simply because never met that one guy, perfect to get all my love. Despite of knowing this all, I still watch love stories, listen to romantic numbers and read romantic books. You know why? Because this is life!! Do whatever you want to do and nobody in this whole world can stop you. Just listen to your heart and do what you like the most be it… anything and I mean ANYTHING. I know these are all just words which anyone can say but for once just try it…for once try and forget about your singlehood and live your life for yourself. No waiting…no need to live up to someone’s expectations…no waiting for calls, messages…life would be much simpler. Don’t get me wrong…we still would be missing on a lovely part of life but philosophy to follow is “whatever happens happens for good”. If god made someone for us sooner or later we will meet that person. Cupid is maybe throwing the arrow in the wrong direction…ha-ha!!

I am still single, I still cry and feel depressed sometimes about it, I still miss my soulmate…but now I have somehow accepted it that I will meet someone very soon and after so much of patience I am sure he’ll be the best.!! Best idea to beat your sadness and loneliness is to turn on the most sad song cry your heart out and I assure you, you will feel better… and when you are tired of crying then try and turn those tears into positive hopes…because then you can live easily, why complicate things for yourself.

In the end, I would say don’t take any of the above advices. Just follow your heart…do what you want to do and make your life your own. Read a book, go out, talk to someone, listen to music, sing, dance or eat chocolates. Stop waiting for someone because that someone will come whenever god wants him to meanwhile live your life and live abundantly!